Mike, you have my empathy because I have been through a divorce and I know how badly it hurts when the other spouse cheats on you. I don’t want you to think I am cold by what I am going to say because as I said I have been in your shoes. BUT it is truly time for you to stop dwelling in the past and move on. Your spouse moved on without a second thought of you. Evidently, she had no second thoughts of breaking up another marriage either since she was having an affair with a married man. She may have said that she loved you but did she really?? Is this what you call love? She took her marriage vows as “in sickness and in health.” She was not sincere when she took those vows. Stop dwelling on this pain or you will never feel better and your health will go down hill even faster. You need all the strength you can muster up to fight this disease. Stress can cause your health to go down hill quickly. Find something else to keep you occupied such as a hobby, if you are healthy enough then go out and do things so you want be constantly remembering the past and dwelling on this pain.
You sound like you are a kind and sincere man and if you want to love again then that lady is out there somewhere. It may take you months or many years to find what you want but trust me your life will get better if you help yourself. Remember, I have been in your shoes and I felt sorry for myself & kept remembering the past instead of picking myself up and moving on to what the future held. God had better plans for me because he sent me the greatest hubby out there. Mike, you can do this and keep telling yourself you can. I have faith in you. Bless you!